The Cost of Getting Comfortable 

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Janice had this dream to become a great architect someday. She went to a top school and had top marks, and even a really great internship. She graduated, applied for jobs, and then… nothing. She had some great interviews even made it to second and third round of hiring fairs, yet she still couldn’t land a job.

Her six months were coming up and soon she would have to start paying back her student loans, so she started getting desperate. She went to a job fair and just applied to any place that seemed somewhat interesting. She ended up landing a lower end job in a mediocre company but was grateful to be somewhere so she could pay her bills.

Fast forward to six years later.

Janice has moved up several places in the company, she’s getting a really great salary, and she even has money to go on vacations and buy things. At work, her position keeps her busy. She is in charge of a few employees and there is always something to do. Each night she goes home exhausted with little energy to do much else.

Now and again she will stand in front of a construction site and just watch as a new building is being put up. She could stand there for hours just watching but usually she has to rush back from lunch before she is late for work. She doesn’t hate her job, there are actually a lot of moments in which she enjoys it. Yet in those moments in which she becomes really frustrated with her job she wonders why she is even still there. She wonders just what happened to her dream.

What did happen to her dream? Janice became too comfortable.

When things don’t always work as we would hope we come up with a Plan B. In this case Janice got a job so she could pay her bills. That job became her security blanket. She was able to pay her bills, save money, and go on vacations; all basic things we would all like to do. Of course she would take a nice promotion. Of course she would work overtime to get a little more christmas money in her pocket and that nice bonus. Why wouldn’t she? It was the easier thing to do.

But the thing is, the more she stayed in that job, the harder it would be to switch to her dream.  That job had created a nice groove in her life and climbing out would be hard, it would be terrifying. It would take away the sureness of her next paycheck. It could cost her everything.

Why is it that we only welcome change or push for it when we are in discomfort?

Following the normal grind is easier, it’s comfortable because it is what we know. Following your dream is hard, painful, and sometimes feels like you are being torn apart from the inside out. There are moments in which I am building my dream in which I just want to put everything on pause and internet binge for the next five hours. I’ll even suddenly create a busy lifestyle of going out just to avoid doing what i know I should be doing. That is until my introvert spirit begs for rest.

I’m uncomfortable all the time but that is a good thing because the moment I become comfortable is the moment I stop growing, the moment I stop pursuing. Let’s go back to Janice.

Janice has decided to stop being comfortable. Although she is exhausted after work she pushes herself to stay upright and apply for jobs. While she waits to hear back she continues to work on sketches and 3D renderings of buildings. She stops at that construction site again but this time she makes friends with the contractors and GM.

And at work she says no to those overtime shifts and a promotion that will require her to take on more hours. It’s hard because she knows that it is good money she turned down but she knows that her dream will require sacrifice and if she is really going to make this work than she can’t be putting her time into other things. She knows these next few months are going to be hard but in the end it will be worth it.

Kick the Bucket

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What are your ultimate goals? What are the things you wish to accomplish before you “kick the bucket”? Sure we all have goals for this year, the next five years, and the next ten. But what is it you want to do? You know that list things you would have wished you have done if you were to die tomorrow.

As humans we always have this notion that tomorrow will always come that we will still be here next week and the year after. That isn’t always the case. They say work today and play tomorrow. I say play everyday. So here I am making a list of all the things I want to accomplish in my lifetime.  You should make one too and then go after them!

Bucket List:

  • Learn to play the guitar and be good at it
  • Travel across Europe
  • Visit all 7 continents
  • Win an oscar for best picture
  • Have a role on Doctor Who
  • Walk every major red carpet
  • Win an award at Sundace and Cannes
  • Sky dive
  • Become an accomplished novelist
  • Become fluent in at least two more languages
  • Complete at least 5 tours

This is just the beginning. More to come!

Unexpected Goal Making

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I have been biking regularly since April but I didn’t really expect to do more with it except exercise. After all I was using my mom’s 15 year old sears bike. However as I continued it became a bit more. I had mixed it with other forms of exercise but the other things felt forced and I dreaded doing them.

Biking however was always fun and I loved to push myself as much as I could. Then this came along: the Lifetime Grand Fondo, a tour with a choice of 15, 30, or 60 miles. I figured why not, and signed up, for the 15 of course.

Then it was suddenly like I got hold of a bug. I got a new bike off of Craigslist and updated it. Here’s the new bike:

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Yesterday was the event. 15 miles and one grueling hill that I had to take three times, also stopping twice to adjust my seat…. but in the end I made it!

I’ve made many goals for this year but this one wasn’t in the plan but it has become important nonetheless. It is amazing how things can change through out the year and small things can become goals. I am looking forward to my next bigger tour and new unexpected goals!

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