This is Your Life

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I read an article today about how we, as millennials, continually compare our experiences with one another to asses if we have taken the right path or if we have completely messed things up. Here is the gist of what it said.

Everyone is worried about their choices. Those in cities worry if they’ll ever get out to the country, and those in the woods think they might be missing the opportunities of city life. Young professionals are terrified they’ve forever bid farewell to fun and freedom, and those with throw-away jobs are down about not making as much money as they could be and not appearing accomplished enough. Some who are dedicated to school want more room in their lives for other things, those with roomy lives desire that space to be filled. Single people want relationships, settled people wonder if they’re missing out on something, traveling types miss stability, stable ones are restless, old friends want new friends, new friends miss old friends, and basically almost everyone my age has some dangling worry trailing around after them everywhere that they’re somehow not doing everything, that what they’re doing is not altogether the right thing, that they are missing out.

I read this and thought “man that is so me”. I look at friends who seem to be traveling all the time and wonder why I’m not doing that, I look at friends who have stable careers and wonder why I don’t get a “real” job, and I look at those who seem to be so collected in the life they have and wonder why I’m not like that.

The truth of the matter is… they are wondering that same thing. I guess it’s that whole grass is always greener on the other side outlook. We take for granted what we have, what we’ve done, and where we are because we are so busy looking at another person’s life.

Here’s the thing, you don’t have it all together and neither do they. Paths were chosen and decisions were made and that is how you got where you are, but if you are so busy looking at what they are doing with their life you end up missing out on what you could be doing with yours.

The author of the article addresses this to people in their twenties but honestly I think this is a lesson for everyone, regardless of age. So take a look back at all the great things that have happened to you and the things you have to look forward to because those things are pretty awesome too.

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Measure of Success

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What is the measure of success? Is it Happiness? Reaching a certain point in your life? Achieving your dream or a dream? How do you know when you’ve finally become successful? Sometimes it feels like a fleeting moment when suddenly you’ve noticed that things have changed or are changing around you and you think to yourself “finally”. Is that success?

Perhaps success is merely growing up and not being who you were yesterday.

There is an article in Entrepreneur that talks about this and it was interesting some of the points they had. It was an article called “20 Signs You’re Succeeding In Life Even If You Don’t Feel You Are”. Instead of placing success at a single moment it is more about an abstract growth. Here are some of the “signs” that I liked (I kept the original number so you can see where they fall on the list).

3. You have raised your standards.

You don’t tolerate bad behavior any more – from other people, or even yourself. You hold people accountable for their actions. You don’t spend time with the “energy vampires” in your life anymore.

9. You can celebrate others’ successes.

Just because other people succeed, that doesn’t make you a failure. Applaud the people who rise to the top. The more positive energy you give to other people’s victories, the more you will create your own.

11. You have things to look forward to.

If you don’t have exciting things going on in your life that you are eagerly anticipating, then you are slowly dying inside. Successful people create goals that they are passionate about pursuing. They let this excitement drive their life.

15. You refuse to be be a victim.

You know that life doesn’t always happen to you. Many times, you are a co-creator of your life experiences. Successful people know this and refuse to be kept down by life experiences. The rise up and conquer anyway.